Imagine being handed the keys to unlimited freedom and power in life. You have only 2 seconds to respond. Would you say no? Probably not.
Yet, in reality, most people end up using only a fraction of the freedom they possess. And when faced with unfamiliar situations, many prefer to be told what to do or mimic others.
Why is this so?
Because truly harnessing our freedom and power requires making bold, meaningful decisions. This demands not just courage, but a deep self-awareness.
The Paradox of Freedom and Power
With greater freedom and power comes the need to make more decisions. But instead of viewing decision-making as an opportunity, we often see it as a problem. This is especially true if we are unclear about what really matters to us. Many people become so entrenched in their immediate circumstances that they forget why they got there in the first place.
A World Traveler's Dilemma
Since I decided to travel around the world, I face countless decisions daily. From basic choices like where to sleep and what to eat (believe me, sometimes I have no idea about the food I just ordered!) to how to spend my time. There’s no office or home to return to, no family or old friends around, and no bosses or colleagues to ask to.
Imagine each day of your life as a blank page waiting to be filled. If you’re curious, you might find yourself torn between infinite possibilities. The fear of missing out can be overwhelming. Choosing one option often means denying others, leading to endless pros and cons lists without making a final decision.
Finding Clarity Through Values
During my journey in Southeast Asia, I often found myself in this situation, alone or with fellow travelers. After a few minutes of discussion, we’d laugh at these first-world problems. To escape this impasse without regret, I step back and ask myself which option aligns most with my core values. The answer becomes clear, and usually, I have no more regrets or second thoughts. Letting the other options go become easier and, even if the outcome isn’t ideal, I remain at peace because I chose something meaningful to me.
Application in Professional Life
This principle applies universally, including in professional settings. The more freedom and responsibilities leaders have, the more decisions they must make. When multiple valid options exist, deciding can be challenging. However, leaders who are aware of their core values usually make decisions more quickly and confidently (and they often choose to work for companies that share similar values).
For instance, if courage is one of their core values, leaders might make bold decisions. Conversely, if stability is paramount, they might choose risk-averse solutions. Regardless of the outcome, they will be at peace because they acted based on what is meaningful to them.
Of course, we all have multiple values, and prioritizing them can be tough. Those unaware of their core values may take longer to decide and often second-guess their choices.
Your Turn: Embrace Self-Awareness
Do you struggle with making decisions? Do you know what your core values are?
As a professional coach, I work with my clients to enhance their self-awareness, focusing on values and strengths to streamline their decision-making process and help them live the life they desire.
Time is one of the most precious resources we have, and it would be a pity to waste it living in a limbo.
If this resonates with you and you want to learn more, reach out to me. Let’s embark on this journey to unlock your true potential together.
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